It was evening when I strolled out with a friend to a suya joint. Our turn was not by a long sight since everybody loves to eat suya and even more because the suya guy sells at a premium value. As more people came, our waiting time also got truncated as customers were being attended to.
What caught the attention of my friend how the suya guy hops his hand in and out of the hot grill, shred the pieces of meat, packages them, collects his money while keeping minutes intact.
Seeing the suya guy, hurrying his hand in and out of the fire place while avoiding getting burnt and still packing the pieces of meat with that hotness, out of pity, my friend turned and whispered ‘life isn’t fair’ I looked up and asked why, pitifully, he held that the aboki has to work with fire, tirelessly stand for hours before he can make his means. I smiled. It got to our turn, we got our package, paid and left.
I went home and wrapped my head around marrying the scenario with my friend’s submission. “Life isn’t fair” but is life really unfair to the suya guy? I could take life as unfair for someone who is passing through difficulties of time, life threatening challenges and burdens but is life actually not fair to someone who’s got a community of loyal customers who could wait behind their time just to give their patronage?
For someone who’s running a business of that kind and with customers trooping in and out, it would ease him a lot if he gets a help or anyone who would be doing one thing while he does another. Business men make money through customers stress.
To sieve out my main point, considering his background, that suya business may be his dream kind of business, or his dream goal – to have a place where he fries very tasty suya, to have loyal customers from all angles, to make money through suya business. All that may have engineered the birth of that suya business. Perhaps, my understanding of him may not be right.
Life is not blindly unfair as I have been exposed to understand in my years. Mostly, what we get off life is the measure we give in to life. People can’t grow beyond their dreams and mindset. The aboki may be in his dreams of yesterday – To become a suya guy. Whatever profit he makes little or big, it is okay for him.
Some young girl somewhere may be praying and dreaming towards getting married and being a mother, it doesn’t come hell or high water to her if her partner would be well off to take care of the family, it not a thing for her if the spouse is responsible enough to handle issues. It may not be considerable to her if she’s prepared to provide parenting and wifely needs. Her dream is to be married nothing above that.
Average minded students may just want first class for their greatest achievements after which he can take any job or do whatever life brings. Another dude working somewhere in a federal or state ministry may find his low pay okay to him since his dream is to graduate from school and work as a civil servant.
In point of fact, no one can grow or succeed beyond his/her mindset, we cannot dare to achieve what is beyond our dream. It is only a big dream that can overpass mediocre.
One with a big dream cannot settle for less, he is a mover, if you find him doing suya today, in One year, he has already got someone or people who would be employed to work for him while he heads unto another thing.
One with big dream is always expecting more from life as one gives more. The truth is, life’s is fair. Aside issues of death and health challenges, every other thing is in its place. Hunger can be dealt with through hard work. Poverty can be choked through vision. Money can be made through efforts. Greatness can be achieved through mindset.
Do not be a low side. Be more than the suya guy.
Aniekwe Angela Chidiogo